The day Trump was elected I had a realization I did not expect. I like many others was horrified when I woke up to see Donald Trump get elected president. I slept very little the night of the election and was really struggling so I decided to run around the lake near my house to clear my head. The movement helped me through the five stages of grief, the process helped me to realize that I had absolutely no idea how it had happened. I had not been speaking with conservatives, I had been speaking at them for some time. I feel pretty confident I could describe the conservative agenda and it is a reasonable one, smaller government (obviously much more to the conservative doctrine, but at the heart of it is smaller government). But I had no idea why someone would vote for Trump, he seemed quite extreme to me. And I realized that I needed to listen to Trump voters.
I had been doing what is so common these days, making assumptions about other people and believing it was true. The assumptions that I had were that most, if not all of the Trump voters were xenophobic. It was so convenient for me, I could just think they are all xenophobic in some way and then I wouldn’t have to do the nasty work of speaking with them without an agenda. After the election, the paradigm I had been operating from became transparent, I noticed the ‘context glasses’ I had been wearing. I had to take them off, they were distorting the world I was looking at and it was cutting me off from half of this country.
The first thing I noticed was how silly it was to assume that all conservatives are xenophobic. Xenophobic (adjective): relating to or exhibiting fear or dislike of the customs, dress, etc., of people who are culturally different. Hmm, I wonder if I fear or dislike someone with another custom???? Classic projection coming from me, claiming others are doing the exact thing I am doing. Once I saw this it became clear that many of my family members who support Trump are not xenophobic. It is so silly to paint anyone in such a broad manner, people are complex, beautiful, and dynamic. It is only my ego that would like me to believe that people are static and are the totality of their flaws. It is my aspiration to see people at the root of their being, which is love. And while I fall short of this, it is the inspiration and calling of my life.
As I was running I envisioned putting together groups of conservatives and liberals to speak to each other, (and while this idea never really gained any traction, it did create a whole new relationship with me and so many of my conservative friends). And I was reminded of Trump’s infamous access Hollywood tape and I was inspired to call these meetings grab em’ by the heart. I love the alchemy in this statement. It took Trump’s infamous statement and transforms it into a way for us to start dialoguing with each other. And while I have not created this forum yet, it is the name that I have given to my coaching business. I see so much power in helping people see the context glasses which they are wearing that limit their greatness. I know that this experience has opened a whole new possibility in my own political feelings.
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